Saturday, September 28, 2013

AN OPEN LETTER TO LOVERS...



I HAVE WANTED 
TO WRITE SOMETHING 
IN ORDER TO REACH 
AS MANY AS POSSIBLE 
OF 
THE PEOPLE WHO MAY BE 
GOING THROUGH WHAT 
SHAMAL AND I ARE 

SO AS TO HELP
BY WAY OF SHOWING THAT:





BEING 
(OR EVEN GETTING TO BE) 
A COUPLE 
HAS NEVER BEEN HARDER 
THAN IT IS TODAY, 
BUT TRUST ME. 

IT REALLY IS WORTH IT.

EVEN CONSIDERING ALL THAT IT TAKES...

THE EXTERNAL DEMANDS, NOT TO MENTION 
THE INTERNAL ONES COMPOUNDED BY 

IGNORANCE...
I DON'T KNOW HOW 
HE/SHE FEELS ABOUT...
(ASK)

DOUBT: 
I DON'T KNOW IF I AM READY 
FOR THIS KIND OF COMMITMENT. 
IS HE/SHE?

(ASK YOURSELF. BE HONEST.
ASK YOUR MATE. 
TELL THEM-
TO BE HONEST AND THEN...

REALLY LISTEN
WITH YOUR HEART 
NOT JUST YOUR EARS.)

FEAR: 
WHAT IF? 
(YEH, WHAT IF HE LOVES YOU TO DEATH 
AND YOU TOO FRIGGING CHICKEN?

YOU BE THE ONE MISSING OUT ON
REAL HAPPINESS, KNUCKLEHEAD.)

UNCERTAINTY:  
(NOTHING IN THIS LIFE IS CERTAIN. 
BUT GO FOR IT ANYWAY IF
YOUR HEART AND YOUR GUT SAYS GOOOO.
BEST DECISION YOU WILL EVER MAKE, 
I PROMISE.
AS LONG AS YOU COMMIT AND 
ARE WILLING TO WORK AT IT). 




& FOR GOD'S SAKE 
LEAVE YOUR FUCKING BRAIN 
AT THE DOOR. 

WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE 
YOUR BRAIN IS CLUELESS. 
IT JUST GETS IN THE WAY AND
MUCKS THINGS UP.

SO HERE GOES: 
PLEASE ENJOY AND REMEMBER. 
I DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING EITHER.

I JUST HOPE THAT IN SHARING... 
I CAN HELP OTHERS AND IN THE PROCESS
HELP SHAMAL & ME TOO.

I DO KNOW THIS MUCH.

I LOVES MY SHAMAL...TO DEATH.
TRUST ME I DO.

NOBODY FINER THAN MAH BOO.
HE MAKES ME TINGLE IN PLACES
I NEVER KNEW I HAD PLACES.

LOL.





I LOVE SHAMAL SO MUCH IT HURTS 
HURTS LIKE HELL SOMETIMES, 
YAH KNOW?

FUCK I LOVE THAT SORRY MOFO. LOL.

BUT..
that does NOT mean 
you always have the answers 
you need to have to 
be able to figure out 
how to best love your mate or even..
how best to help guide him for you.

You never will know THAT until you

commit yourself to him and make the effort.

SPEND TIME TOGETHER.

You think you can learn your mate well?
Completely? TRULY?
By NOT spending time with him?
RECIPE FOR PERMANENT 
ALONEVILLE.

TAKES THE TWO OF YOU 
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS 
PUTTING EACH OTHER FIRST
ABOVE EVERYTHING ELSE...

CAUSE IN THE END WHATCHA GOT?





MONEY? 
Maybe but...is that enough?

EXAMPLE:

My biological father has gobs of $$$.

Sr VP for one of the biggest auto manufacturers 

on the planet, plus liquor distributorships, 
car dealerships, etc.

BUT,

he has 8 children from 4 marriages to women 
who ALL, 
EVERY SINGLE ONE,
divorced him.

NONE OF THEM NOR ANY OF HIS KIDS
WILL HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIM.

WHY?

HE IS AN EGOTISTICAL SELF-CENTERED 

ASSHOLE WHO HAS PUSHED THEM 
ALL AWAY BY HIS INDIFFERENCE 
& THE WAY HE TREATS THE PEOPLE 
IN HIS LIFE. 

(although he whines about it and 

about being totally alone...
with his money, 
and it's ALL...THEIR fault, 
doncha know.)

HELL his own mother who was the one who 

spoiled his sorry ass rotten? 
When she died of complications from diabetes, 
he barely even came to her funeral.
Course, he never called her in life, 
so nobody else was too surprised
when he showed way late and 
only stayed ten minutes.

DICKHEAD.


ALONE NOW? YEP, and no question his own

selfishness is what got him there.


FRIENDS? 

Again will those friends be there AT ALL TIMES...
UNTIL DEATH DO YOU PART? 

(YOU CUTE? Wait until your looks go and they will too.

YOU FUN? Wait until the MINUTE you ain't. 
They will be GONE. 
Sorry darling, but NOBODY stays the 
'NEW KID IN TOWN'
forever.

You love to party with your friends. Great, 

but what happens when party time is over 
and it always is sooner or later?

NO MON NO FUN NO HON...

trust me.

99% of these are NOT FRIENDS anyway.

Acquaintenances perhaps, but friends?
Most can't even SPELL the word let alone
know how to BE one. 

(AND, if either of you are SO immature 

and SO STUPID as to not know the difference 
between long -term happiness and short-term pleasure, 
which pretty much means you will FUCK UP the relationship
cause you put FUN in front of what it takes
to build that solid foundation UPON WHICH TO
build the rest of your life with the one you CLAIM
to love...
THEN?

YOU DESERVE TO SPEND THE REST OF 

YOUR SORRY LITTLE LIFE ALONE.)

THERE IS A LOT MORE TO IT 

(Getting a relationship RIGHT)
than getting stoned or high 
or whatever
and blowing $$$ and 
PRECIOUS TIME
on people who IN THE END 
won't be anywhere to be found 
WHEN YOU NEED THEM.

Your LOVE?  HE WILL BE...

even when NO ONE ELSE will. 
THAT is love.

LOVE MEANS NOT GOING TO JAIL 
FOR 
SOMEONE

IT MEANS GOING TO JAIL 

WITH 
SOMEONE,

IN THE CELL, 
SINGING SONGS AND 
PLAYING THE FOOLS.

LOVE MEANS PUSHING HIM 
OUT OF THE WAY OF DANGER
EVEN IF THAT MEANS YOU 
TAKING THE BULLET MEANT FOR HIM.

THAT IS....LOVE

IF THAT is what you got 
in the one
you claim to love then...
GO FOR IT
CAUSE
TRUST ME

THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE 

LOVING MY DUDE.
AND BEING LOVED BACK.

NOTHING. HIS LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL

AND SOOO IS MINE. DAMN RIGHT.

GOD THAT IS SO GOOD.




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